Real life can feel really hard.  Messy relationships, sucky jobs, heartbreak, trauma, and dreams that bit the dust.  

There’s an inability to get away from work, pressure to perform, and so much rushing around and comparison to the lives of others - even when we don’t mean to. It’s exhausting. Stressful. Overwhelming.

Then there’s all the messaging you might have received about who you’re supposed to be, how you’re supposed to act, what’s okay, what’s not, and stuff that feels too scary to even bring out into the open.

I’m someone who was always trying to be better, look better, do more, and be more. Someone who strived until I was beyond exhausted. Someone who almost always put the needs of others first, not even realising I was allowed to worry about my own.

I became a counsellor because I was always interested in the human condition, but also because therapy changed everything for me. When you know how the past has informed your present, you can make changes and different choices, set boundaries, and work on self-acceptance.

It’s a process that helps us to cope with what life throws at us more sustainably- without needing to engage in harmful coping mechanisms. Learning to find a better relationship with ourselves means we form better relationships with those around us too.

Usually, it’s the darkest times that make us realise there must be a different way. You might find yourself in the trenches of despair, feeling desperately out of control. But there is a way out.

P.S. If you’re interested in my qualifications, find them here.